My parents used to have us write a “Resolution list” for the coming
year, but even at a young age, I found such attempts a waste of my
time. "Being nicer to my sister," or "not eating candy," would last
until about 2pm on New Year’s Day, and bear nothing but sweet
investments in my failure complex. So I’d doodle on my supposed list,
or make-up something to appease parental requests, but beyond that,
spent my years resorting to a no-resolution approach.
In 2009, this changed.
My first three weeks of 2009 were spent on a three-week solitude
retreat. I’d interact with a therapist/spiritual-director each
morning, but other than that, was alone with the snowy woods of
Washington. A handful of themes encased from this journey, of the more
significant ones being “rest.” Debriefing in a friend’s living room, I
remember asking her from thereon out to, “Remind when that I lost
engagement with the Sabbath, that such is a sin* for me.” And what I
meant by “sin” here was relatively unrelated to anything behavioral,
and rather, resistance to something invitational—from God.
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