Sylvia’s primary love language was quality time. Before marriage, Mark spoke her love language fluently. On their dates, he gave her his undivided attention. She felt genuinely loved by him even after the in-love obsession faded. However, after the wedding, she discovered that living with Mark was far different from dating Mark. He was a superactive person, and there were always “things to be done.” There were lawns to be mowed, shrubbery to be trimmed, leaves to be blown, cars to be washed, walls to be painted, carpet to be replaced. There was always a project.

“He is a hardworking man,” said Sylvia. “The problem is that he never has any time for me. It’s not that I don’t appreciate what he does. I do, but what good is it if we don’t have time for each other?”

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