What's Real?

“Real isn't how you are made,” said the Skin Horse.
“It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”
“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.
“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don...'t mind being hurt.” “Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”
“It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby.
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“I’m so broken!” Really? Maybe not.

Charles Cockerell designed the Ashmolean Museum in Oxford to reflect the classical architecture of Rome. With massive Ionic columns, the building appears ready to withstand the fiercest tempest  ever to spin off the grey North Sea.

In truth, the columns do nothing but add a classical façade to a building that is held up by a standard architectural design of stone and mortar. If the storm of the century did arrive in Oxford, the columns would go first, revealing a very strong and plain reality just behind the Ionic (and ironic) Greek surface.

Churches have been talking a lot about brokenness lately. “Authentic” as a fad. It can seem so healthy, as we come to terms with our humanity and the terrible weight that drags us down. But it also is addictive, as a gathering of the broken becomes a weepy, high school pity party. “I’m so broken” can become “I’m not responsible.”

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Mike Foster: Why I don't believe in Christian accountability, part 1

Mike Foster is the co-author of "Deadly Viper Character Assassins" and blogs at DeadlyViper.org.

You can follow his nuggets on leadership, life and grace at Twitter.com/mikefoster.



Why I Don't Believe in Christian Accountability, Part 1

I am deeply committed to all of us living a life of radical integrity and grace. Through Deadly Viper I get the chance to work with leaders on personal sustainability and living a life with no regrets. And though I champion the ideas of transparency, authenticity, and brutal honesty, I don't believe in Christian accountability.  

I'm Not Authentic

Everybody wants to be authentic these days.  Not me.  I'm not authentic, and I'm not even trying to be authentic.  It's not that I want to be fake and phony.  I just know I'm not authentic, because I know as hard as I try to be authentic, I just can't do it, and neither can you.  Here's why.

To be truly authentic, you have to be a true original.  By definition, something that's authentic has a "claimed and verifiable origin or authorship."  An authentic Rembrandt sketch is one-of-a-kind.  It's not a copy.  it's the first one.  Even if you take "authentic" to mean something other than "original," you're still faced with something that's "fully trustworthy."  Sorry.  I'm trustworthy most of the time, but fully?  Not a chance.

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A Well-Scrubbed Version of ME

In today’s world, technology offers us a unique view of one another. I’ve recently been wrestling with this. I am a follower of Jesus Christ. I seek to live my life consistent with the beliefs that I hold from Scripture. There are times when I live incredibly empowered by God’s Spirit. There are times that I stumble and fail. I try to keep short accounts with my wife, short accounts with my brothers, and short accounts with Jesus.

None of this is really where the rub is, hopefully none of this should land as a surprise. Here’s where I’ve been wrestling lately. On my Blog, on my Facebook pages, in my messages, I’ve been offering the “well scrubbed version of me.” So, while I believe that today’s technology offers a clearer view of KNOWING one another from a distance than has ever been possible before, I also recognize the potential for hypocrisy that exists. That’s why I’m calling it out. And because confession is good for the soul.
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