Many people like me, who grew up immersed in church, have given up on it. Many see church as archaic, domineering, impersonal, hypocritical, irrelevant, contentious, petty, boring and stale. It’s institutional instead of authentic and religious but not relational, they say. In the end my attempts to sidestep the church blew up in my face and I was faced with the decision: stay in church and work through my mess or leave and be free. I chose to stay.