Is it just me, or has the whole Christian dating thing become really, really complicated? When Josh Harris wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, he had good intentions. He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Like I said, good intentions, good impulse. I’m grateful for Josh. But, as we are so prone to do, we took good principles and distorted them and distilled them into a series of unhelpful/legalistic practices.