Both wives and husbands are being shaped into the image of Christ in marriage. When we leave the altar on our wedding day, our husbands won’t perfectly be like Christ for us. God uses marriage itself to sanctify wives and husbands, so they can be like Christ to each other. It might take many years of sanctifying marriage for a husband to learn Christlike headship, and even then it will be imperfect. Wives, as helpmates, come alongside their husbands in this unfinished work.