Can love be funny? You bet! But more importantly, creating the right conditions in your marriage is essential for a long and satisfying marriage. True love is unconditional, but we all know that love is filled with conditions...
Alright, husbands, here we go. Today’s the big day. It’s time to muster our level best and not drop the ball on Valentine’s Day. It’s not too late to make plans, or give them an upgrade — though it might be hard work scrambling at the last minute. Even so, sometimes our best of Valentine’s intentions go awry. And when we botch it, at least we should try to learn something from it.
According to authors of a great new book, "What Is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense," we're on the wrong track already if the marriage debate gets bogged down in the issues of love or rights, because marriage is founded on something far deeper. "What we have come to call the gay marriage debate," the authors write, "is not directly about homosexuality, but about marriage. It's not about whom to let marry, but about what marriage is."
While Christians often bemoan the state of marriage in America and groan about shifting sexual norms, there are structural reasons—some that have nothing inherently to do with sex or marriage—that have accelerated such changes. It’s actually become socially more difficult—not just personally more challenging—to withhold sex before marriage. Recognizing the economics and market dynamics of modern romantic relationships can make all the difference. Hear how you can save marriage before it starts.
Take your pick. Whether you are looking for ideas for a date night, Valentine's Day or a bigger solution to preserving your marriage this year, National Marriage Week USA, celebrated on February 7-14 annually, will help you find much more than a rose and a box of chocolate for your troubles.
I used to think I had my stuff together. Then I got married. Marriage is great—but it rocked everything I knew. This decision introduced my most significant experiences and most challenging experiences—none of which I would trade for the world. However, I wish I’d had a bit more insight on the front end of our marriage to help me navigate it all.
From Tim Challies: The New York Times has a powerful article about the awful cost of an affair. “What you don’t know, or perhaps what you don’t allow yourself to think about, is that your life will become an unbearable mix of yearning and regret because of it. It will be difficult if not impossible to be in any one place with contentment.”
We’re seeing is a rapid hollowing out of marriage in Middle America–with 44 percent of the children of moderately-educated mothers born outside of marriage. “We’re at a tipping point with Middle America,” W. Bradford Wilcox, a leading scholar on marriage, told National Review Online’s Kathryn Jean Lopez, “insofar as Middle Americans are on the verge of losing their connection to marriage.” We are “witnessing a striking exodus from marriage,” according to the study.
The concept that marriage is meant to illustrate Christ’s relationship with the church is pervasive in evangelical Christianity today. It is based on Ephesians 5:21-33, where Paul speaks of Christian marriage. But is this what the Bible actually teaches?
Husbands, let me challenge you to come home from work like you are going to work at a job you love in a place you love. Come alongside your wife to talk, listen, and learn her. Play with the kids. Do some chores. Make some jokes. Read the Bible. Pray together. Play a game. Make some dessert. Fix something that broke. Flirt with your wife. Sit and talk. Whatever you do, do it heartily and intentionally like a guy who is there, engaged with his family not escaping from his family.