Motivations are one thing, expectations are another. If you asked most people, they would affirm that there is no such thing as a perfect spouse. However, I’m betting that most of those same people would probably also affirm the “perfect-for-me” theory of spousal selection. Let us disabuse ourselves of that expectation. There is no perfect person on this earth waiting for you. Find me a potential spouse, and I’ll show you a sinner — because we are all sinners.