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It’s My Dick In a Box So the title is crude – but I am simply quoting a hilarious Justin Timberlake/Andy Samberg SNL sketch. A sketch which really got me thinking…(not “thinking” like that. I mean, don’t get me wrong, Justin Timberlake is an attractive man – I just don’t think things would really work out between us – our lives are just in two different places right now.) But I digress – I was thinking about the literal realization of my genitalia in a box. Not as a gift for someone as JT suggested – but as a gift from God. What if God, in all his wisdom, chose to bestow men with our reproductive organs on our wedding day???!!! Stay with me here: If our wieners (I will use that word because I find it less crude / more hilarious than genitalia) were truly meant for one woman, after marriage – than receiving said wiener on your wedding day seems pretty appropriate.
 Robin Williams said it best when he said, “God gave all men a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to operate one at a time.” So why didn’t the Almighty God see fit to dole out our “cash and prizes” on our wedding day rather than at birth? Because the journey is more important than the destination. God did not intend for us to live asexual lives until marriage. He created humans as sexual creatures. Those longings and desires are not bad. In fact God created us to have them. However, we live in a sinful world that has corrupted and capitalized on these desires – but I believe ignoring them altogether can be just as harmful as giving in to them entirely. As Christians we should strive to embrace our sexuality because that is how God created us. The battle to remain balanced in that sexuality is all part of the journey. And it is the journey that molds us. It is on the journey where we encounter Christ; in our success and failures, in the proper use of our sexuality and in our abuse of it. Perhaps life would be easier (and far less complicated) if my “twig and berries” were waiting for me on the gift table at my wedding reception. But, how would I even begin to write a thank-you card for that? |
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I'm not sure if anyone approaching middle age will have the guts to comment on your post, Matt, but since we're still in Beta mode--hey, I'll give it a try.
I like the core premise of your essay here, but let me suggest a clarification. There's a huge area that falls between "ignoring our sexuality" and "embracing our sexuality," as you put it. You concede here that the balance is the tricky part, and I would agree. I think most Christian young people are asking much more precise questions: what IS the "proper use of sexuality" if one is not married? I wish I had the right answer to type into this little response square, but it is more complicated than we often acknowledge.
One thing I know for sure is found in Romans 8: "Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires."
Those who live outside the transforming power of the Holy Spirit hardly stand a chance at finding that balance, I think. It sounds like many others are exploring the same issues (see Dan Scott on this one).
But I like your thinking here. It's certainly out of the box.
First of all, Caroline's comment about your post being "out of the box" was funny. Not sure if she intended it as a pun, but it works!
Okay, so I like your approach: the humor, cultural references, the priceless quote from Robin Williams. But I'm hoping that you're in a "series" of posts that will shed further light on what it means for single people of faith to "embrace" their sexuality.
Keep it up. You are getting lots of "reads," and who knows, there may be a book in here somewhere. You're kind of the anti Josh Harris, and I mean that in a complimentary sort of way.
Stan - I loved the "out of the box" comment as well.
As for your "anti-Josh Harris" comment - I am flattered. ( I did participate in an "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" book burning at Westmont.... not school sponsored, of course.)
This blog was not intended to be part of a series - but I certainly do have more to say on the subject of finding a balance between ignoring your sexuality and drowning yourself in it.
Thanks for your comments. They are appreciated.
Stan, you thought I could possibly use a pun unintentionally? I'm hurt!
As for you, Matt, keep writing with no fear; at the very least, it will keep your dad alert and nervous. May God bless him.
My apologies, Carolyn! It was a perfect pun. I agree that Matt should continue to write with no fear. If he keeps this up, I have a feeling he's going to gain a big audience.
Caroline's pun was hilarious. So is the title of your blog Matt. Fabulous.
Amen, brother. But you left me hanging. (Pun intended.)
So, what is the answer. God made us sexual beings during a time when we aren't supposed to use our sexual equipment. Why is that? "The journey is more important than the destination" is not a very satisfying answer for me (or for my equipment urges).
For me, the more important question is now "why" but "how." How do we manage to suppress sexual urges in a sex-saturated culture? (And putting it in a box is not an acceptable answer.)
Surferguy -
Thanks for the comment.
I think your questions are good and they are precursors to what could be a great discussion on sexuality and sex (which are two things we should be sure not to confuse here). I realize that simply stating that "the journey is more important than the destination" is not the most satisfying answer - however - it does speak to the the heart of the matter. God gave you the "urges" you so frustratingly write about. Urges that CAN be fully satisfied - by the woman God has picked for you, at the time He sees fit.
And - while waiting can be frustrating - Gods timing is usually pretty good.
So - guys like you and I - we wait.
And the waiting is, yep, you guessed it - part of the journey.
While this is absolutely a sore subject for men these days, I did find your piece to be both thought-provoking and hilarious at the same time.
Keep it up man!!
(and quit it with the puns already, no doubt you can find at least 3 in what I just wrote above)
Dude I love this read. I've always found that Christians can't find that balance and to be honest with you I can't either. I would like to hear more of your thoughts before I make an opinion.
Jason