One of the most significant findings of the book is that dating, as is typically conceived, is virtually non-existent on college campuses (with the exception of evangelical schools). She says, “According to students…most relationships develop like this: one night after a party, two people hook up, then it happens again, then it becomes a regular thing, and eventually they find that they are in a relationship…If any coffees, dinners, or ‘just talking’ romantic encounters occurred with these students, these experiences typically happened after multiple hookups and the decision to become a couple…Students don’t see many avenues to committed relationships aside from hooking up” (139). Thus, most students go on dates only after they’ve been sexually intimate for quite some time. At most universities the hook up has replaced the first date. The old formula was dating first, and then sex. Now it’s sex first, and then dating.
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