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New Endings and Old Beginnings

It’s been a while, hasn’t it?  I didn’t mean to take a hiatus from blogging. It sort of just...happened. Kind of like how becoming the foursquare mayor of your local McDonald’s and Chipotle just…happens. You don’t set out to become the mayor but a conflux of proximity, deliciousness, and competitiveness converge and suddenly you find yourself making a point to eat there simply so you can “win”. (If you have no idea what I’m talking about, go visit You’ll either instantly get it or instantly hate it. You can probably guess which side of the spectrum I’m on.)

Anyway, my hiatus evolved as I began wrapping up some projects I’ve been involved with over the last couple years - the most important of which was my Master’s Degree.

While I’m excited to have finished that milestone, it is bittersweet in that it is just one of many major seasons of my life that are suddenly wrapping up.

I’ve found myself looking back quite a bit these past few months.Since my last post, I have:

...celebrated my 30th birthday

...wrapped up a multi-year project as a business manager for an indie film

...watched dear friends move half way around the world - to New Zealand!

...said goodbye as another pair of dear friends moved to Colorado (at least it’s not on the other side of the world - I’m talking to you, Keith & Erin!)

...prepared to say goodbye to a third pair of dear friends moving from California to Arkansas

...graduated from school - which also means saying goodbye (or at least “won’t have an excuse to see you as often”) to my school community

...worked through transition at my home church as our teaching pastor prepares to leave

...said goodbye to what I can safely say is my all time favorite television experience (it’s more than a show!) - LOST.

What’s interesting about the timing of these endings is this: each and every experience on that list has really been a part of my post-separation existence. The friends that are moving away formed a large portion of the community that provided the support I needed as I fought for my marriage and healed from the pain of divorce. The film project and school provided much needed distractions during times when life felt all but overwhelming. The pastor at my church preached sermons that helped strengthen my anchor of faith.

LOST provided much needed escapism during times where life on a polar bear infested, time traveling, smoke monster guarded island seemed a much better alternative to chugging through the emotional entanglement of divorce. (Perhaps if my ex-wife and I crash landed on the island we could have worked through our issues like Jin & Sun! Of course, that would also mean *SPOILER ALERT* drowning together in a submarine.)

All of these new endings occurring at once. All at a time when I’m emotionally and spiritually restored. All forming a clear picture of a tapestry of support when I needed it most. They say God works through the work of his disciples. The people in this tapestry are His proof.

But thinking about all these new endings also got me thinking about beginnings. Sure, there’s the excitement of what lies ahead as slates are wiped clean and new opportunities develop. There are many other friendships, many other members of my community that have beginnings dating back longer than I care to admit. When I think back to those relationships, they all had their “new endings” too - graduation, marriage, children - all events that marked the end of one aspect of our relationship. And as time has proven, the beginning of a whole new level of friendship and community.

In Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. - Romans 12:5 (NIV).

It seems to me that when it comes to relationships, even when new endings occur, old beginnings are strengthened again. After all, we are all one body of people - united in His gracious love.

To my friends (and pastors, and TV shows) who are journeying to new adventures, I am grateful for our old beginnings - and look forward to many more new endings together in our future!


I'm glad you're writing again on CL. You've been missed. I'm also excited for you as you embark on your way to new endings!

It's good to be back! I'm looking forward to seeing where these "new endings" take me! :)

Oh Jim, well put. As I sit in my new home state, allowing it to sink in that I just moved away from all that I know, and all that's comfortable in my life (except for my wonderful husband, of course), I am thankful for your reminder that new beginnings are coming my way. Our God is good, and I am sure He will continue to put friends in each of our lives that will encourage, strengthen, and ride alongside us in this crazy adventure we call life!

Now, plan a trip out to CO already! (you are welcome at any time)

PS - thanks for the shout out!

Tammy H,

You're 100% correct about the fact that our God is good and he WILL put friends in our lives to encourage us. Looking at the relationships I have in my life now, I can fully trust in the Lord that he will continue to provide.

Let the trip planning commence. :)

Cheers to new endings and old beginnings! Life is short so live to the fullest. - Carmack Moving and Storage

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