I don't know what to do. To make a VERY long story short, I can literally write a book on how the relationship I am currently in with my girlfriend (almost one year) is literally everything I've ever dreamed of, and her too. It's so mutual, and so amazing. Even in our differences we find ways to connect like two unique pieces in a puzzle. BUT - there is one problem, and it maybe a lot larger than we can handle. She is 7th Day Adventist.

Why is this a problem? Well, I will probably be in ministry (and I have been, and kinda am currently). She is a bit rigid in this area, in that she views this will be something she observes for the rest of her life. Meaning, on the weekend, we will be in dissension. The only two days that the average American family is together, we will be disjointed, and that is not good at all! I am afraid that this one small thing is the one thing that will make us loose something we do not want to let go of. It feels like the answer to years of prayers, and God's gift to me, and she feels the same way. But we just have not been able to figure this thing out. I ask myself, how can I commit to a woman that I fear I may never fully connect with spiritually? We connect in so many ways, and even in the "spiritual compatibility" area we connect - prayer, Devos, worship, heart, etc. But my view is so opposite of hers. I'm Nondenominational and have actually preached against Traditions of Men/Religion. And yet she observes something that is so close to what I've preached against. On one hand, as an individual I greatly admire her discipline and her heart for the Lord to observe the sabbath so well, and whole-heartedly. As an honor and worship to the Lord she does this. But as a couple, as a married couple, in the future, I feel like as we become one flesh we may have to edit how we select to honor God...He doesn't have to be honored that way...I feel like God isn't forcing her to do this, and He doesn't necessarily need her to do this...would it not be more honoring to the Lord for her to connect, and for us to be in harmony? Wouldn't that be more honorable to God? How do we do this...what do we do? Any ideas...we have discussed it THOROUGHLY and our next step is pre-engagement counseling...but I'm open to any and all advice...