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Fighting Your Quarter-Life Crisis with a Good Cause

Rather than let my quarter-life crisis continue to be imminent as my twenty-fifth looms around the corner, I decided to be proactive.

When a man has a mid-life crisis, he either gets confused or depressed. If confused, he will likely buy a boat, a car, or that big TV he has always wanted. If depressed, he may become somber and run back to his old vice.

When a man has a quarter-life crisis, he either goes crazy or gets stupid. If crazy, he may start setting unreasonable, often selfish, goals. If stupid, he could do one of the countless things that men who aren't ready to grow up yet do--you know the story.

I have a goal setting personality type, which makes being unreasonable a risk for me. I've set way too many ridiculous goals in my life; and yet when I meet them, I rarely celebrate. Instead, I ponder what went wrong along the way or what I'm going to do next. Both of these steps are good things, but they've often hindered positive feelings. This means that no matter how successful my last year was, I always go into my birthday feeling like the year could have been better. Although I'm always thankful for my relationships--with Christ, my wife, family, friends, colleagues, and others--I rarely reflect on that. Instead, I'm stuck thinking about what didn't happen during the last year and what needs to happen in the next. Sometimes it's holy discontent, but other times, it's just unnecessary mourning.

I imagine many of you are like me and are looking for an alternative to these quarter-life crisis feelings. To fight these feelings and all the possible oncoming craziness, I've decided to combine my goal setting nature with a cause. I'm raising relief funds for the hungry and thirsty in the Horn of Africa. (If you want to learn more or donate, go here.) Let's see how the quarter-life crisis holds up to this battle for a cause.

How do you fight feelings of anxiety about your age in life or goals? 

Comments

Many years ago a patient of mine undergoing a total hip arthroplasty for avascular necrosis of his hips from chemotherapy told me he was dying. He asked me if I had ever read the Psalms. He said he fought anxiety of the earthly kind with eternal thinking (why I came to your blog), clearing his mind of the frustrations of this brief journey (he had just completed his quarter-life milestone) reading the Psalms. He started each day reading five Psalms. Today I read Psalm 16, 46, 76, 106, and 136, and as I approach my three-quarter-life milestone find reading five Psalms sets my mind to thinking eternally. I invariably reach holy tears of repentance and look for more learning experiences where Christ is not my all. A full appreciation of my inadequacy, and I am only beginning to learn how incomplete and inadequate I am, is my absolute joy. The good news is only as good as the bad news is bad!

Having faith is a necessity for Christians, and here are three reasons why it is so important for us to have in faith our lives.-Donald Leon Farrow

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