Love is for losers.

Losers fail to recognize the needs of their significant other.

Losers avoid confrontation and bury the problem.

Losers have high expectations that do not match reality.

Losers cut themselves off and figure the relationship out alone.

Love is for losers.

Losers sacrifice their needs for their significant other, placing their needs above their own.

Losers willingly tackle confrontation, even if they may be wrong.

Losers are willing to let go of their expectations, settling instead for the beauty of reality.

Losers are humble enough to seek wise council from the community around them.

Everyone is a loser when it comes to love.  You are either losing the relationship or losing yourself in the relationship.  I don’t know about you, but I identify with both sets of losers.  The first set of losers explains how my marriage died.  The second set of losers paints a picture of what my next relationship will be.  Either I’m seeing my wife through my own personal needs, or I am setting those needs aside to humbly meet her needs authentically.  

God has placed a number family, friends, and opportunities in my life over the past two years to help teach me what it means to be in relationship.  One such opportunity has been the work I’ve done for an independent film, Coyote County Loser.  In God’s amusing sense of humor, he opened a door for me to work on a film where the main purpose is to demonstrate what strong, healthy relationships look like right as mine was falling apart.

Funny, God.  Really funny.

But, I trusted Him, and I trusted the Producer of the film, Jacob, as he is a dear friend of mine.  In the end, it was a beautiful way for me to process why my marriage failed, while also doing something productive to share a message to others about the true beauty of marriage.  

The film is an honest, sweet, romantic comedy and *SHAMELESS PLUG ALERT* is coming to a theater near you! (Well, if you live in or near Orange County, CA anyway).  I’d love for you to come and check out the film - more information is available at www.coyotecountyloser.com.

And when you’re watching the film, think about which type of loser you are.  (I mean that in the nicest way possible!).  

PS - For a great review of the film from fellow ConversantLife blogger Carrie, Ngangngang, click here.