How do we remove the splinters in our lives? How do we heal the wounds? It is not by ignoring it and hoping that it will get better by itself. It is not by pretending that nothing is wrong. It is not by positive thinking. The way to address it is to identify the splinter, and then to remove it or to allow it to be removed. The wound must be opened, lanced if necessary, the balm of forgiveness poured in, and the whole injury properly bound up.