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Speaking the Truth in Love

Have you ever been insulted and wanted to return the favor? In some ways this is a silly question because of course you have. This past week Brett Kunkle (student impact speaker for Stand to Reason) and I took 26 high school students on an apologetics mission trip to UC Berkeley. Yes, UC Berkeley! We invited in local atheists, agnostics, and even a homosexual activist to interact with our students and to challenge their faith. We also sent our students out with surveys to get in conversations with the Berkeley students about God, ethics, and the meaning of life. In case you are thinking that this may be irresponsible, please keep in mind that we carefully selected the students and thoroughly prepared them for such an experience.

My favorite part of the trip was our meeting with a student atheist group at Berkeley. The group included some undergrads, but also some Masters and Ph.D. students in philosophy and physics. Brett and I had the opportunity to speak for about 45 minutes and then field questions for another hour. Our approach was not to try to defend the Bible, the existence of God, or the resurrection of Jesus. Rather, we simply argued that any thoughtful person on a truth quest would begin with Christianity. Our reasons were that Christianity is testable, it offers a unique worldview fit, and it offers free salvation (free is always good!)

After our presentation one of the atheist students challenged me personally. He began by saying, “Your arguments were so bad that if I didn’t know any better, I would have thought that you were stoned on crack. What source do you have to back up your claims?” My initial thought was to return insult for insult. After all, no one likes being publicly attacked! But I decided to heed Paul’s advice in Romans 12:17-21

Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men.
If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Never take your own
revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “VENGEANCE
MINE, I WILL REPAY,” says the Lord. “BUT IF YOUR ENEMY IS HUNGRY, FEED HIM, AND IF
HE IS THIRSTY, GIVE HIM A DRINK; FOR IN SO DOING YOU WILL HEAP BURNING COALS ON
HIS HEAD.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

In jest I responded, “Was that an insult or a compliment?” People laughed and the tension was diffused. I then proceeded to give my specific source and to defend my position. As Christians in changing culture, we absolutely must be prepared to give an answer for the questions non-believers have (1 Peter 3:15), but we must always do it with gentleness and respect. Truth without love is worthless (1 Corinthians 14). However, speaking the truth in love is the most powerful weapon we have.

Comments

Would the video or audio of the talk be available? I would love to share the QA with our High School Ministry group. I don't think we get to see a lot of young apologist out there (not that the older group can't relate). Young people identify more with their own age group...

Eventually I will make it available. It will take some time, but I'll let you know...

Sean

WHAT DID YOU TELL HIM YOU USED TO BACK UP YOUR CLAIMS?

I WOULD HAVE SAID SCRIPTURE (THE BIBLE WHICH IS THE MOST ACCURATE HISTORICAL REFERENCE WE HAVE) YOU PROBABLY DID USE IT, I'M ASSUMING, SO HOW DID YOU RESPOND AFTER YOU DIFFUSED THE INSULT?

THIS IS PARTICULARLY POIGNANT TO ME TODAY AS I AM CONSTANTLY DEFENDING CHRISTIANITY TO A FRIEND AND ITS PLACE IN OUR GOVERNMENT AND LAWS.

THANK YOU.

To the person who addressed the group of atheists, all I can say is Thank you for your ministry. It is uplifting and inspiring to here about the willingness of others to speak out on behalf of our faith in Christ.
May your ministry be fruitful and may the Lord bless you abundantly!
for His glory,
Ginny

Acting rude is a central part of Kevin's identity, it really isn't personal or about religion.

Anyways those of us who were there really did enjoy meeting and interacting with the students you brought up to Berkeley. However regarding your presentation, something I've noticed in thinking about it, is that it really is a very weak claim. As I mentioned to you before the presentation started, I grew up in Calvary Chapel, and was until 18 a very devout Christian. So I did start my quest with Christianity, so even if you are right that I should start my quest there, it changes absolutely nothing about what I should believe, or what I should study today. And even if I was considerably more religious in the past than probably anyone else in the group, we all have carefully considered the claims of Christianity at some point.

I think to make an argument which could be effective in convincing atheists you need to show not just that Christianity is testable, but also that it in fact passes those tests.

Also world view fit is probably nearly irrelevant to how likely something is to be true. And salvation being free in Christianity certainly is not a good reason to think it actually is true.

So I don't know if you remember me, Sean, but this is Nick, the Psychology Graduate student from SANE. I wish that wasn't a rigid designator for me. There should be more of us, but I digress.

I know you were trying to make a point with your quote, but I think a more charitable interpretation of what he said (rather than as a personal attack, which it actually almost assuredly wasn't), would be to interpret it as "I do not comprehend what you are saying" or "I do not think you are listening to yourself talk, because there are blatant contradictions in the words coming out of your mouth." Now, as I cannot find (in my audio recording of the event) the time when he said this, I cannot attest the veracity of your exact wording of his quote, though I remember it being slightly different. I am pretty sure the source thing was a different, separate thing about Carl Sagan, and not attached to the crack comment. Saying that you are acting like you are under the influence of drugs shouldn't really be taken as an insult as such. Just as a contrast, when the person in question actually wants to insult someone, he kind of just says it.

I'm thinking of writing up a list of the psychological tactics you used in the presentation you guys made (I'm sure unknowingly) to SANE, as well as in the approach you two took in the questions afterward. I'm also thinking of writing up a point by point response to the entire presentation, discussion afterward, etc. These are just exercises I'm thinking of going through that I thought you might want to see, and since it looked like you were paying attention to the comments here, I figured I'd just put these messages together.

I hope everything is going well for you, and I look forward to hearing from you.

And now this feels like an email. *sigh*

A couple points --

First, an issue of semantics. I did not utter the phrase "stoned on crack," simply because it would be kind of like saying someone was "drunk on vicodin." But, with that useless point out of the way, onwards -

Although it makes a much nicer story when you frame it as you did, issues of word choice aside, I still did not express the sentiment attributed to me in your post. By the time we had reached the Q&A section of the event, I had decided that it would be better not to try to argue with your presentation as a whole. I thought this for two reasons; because it seemed to be intended as simply an interesting series of ideas rather than as a coherent argument, and secondly, because the time it would have taken me to list off the flaws in your lines of thought would have taken far more than the time alotted. If you would like to see a full rebuttal to your presentation, I am sure that we would be happy to prepare one.

Instead, I challenged you on two specific factual points. I'm not even sure 'challenged' is the right word -- I just asked for sources. I was pretty sure that you would not have made strong factual claims that you did not have a source onhand for, simply because you are not the type of person to do so. I did make a crack about crack before getting on to the "give me a source" part, just because your Sagan anecdote seemed incredibly ludicrous. (I think it was something to the effect of "If someone other than you said this, I'd assume they were on crack..." but am not sure as I do not have a recording of the event.)

The first point I challenged was the the idea that salvation by faith was unique to the Christian religion. I put forth the example of the tradition of Pureland/Amida Buddhism set forth by Shinran (e.g., Shin Buddhism.) You had a quote from a Christian theologian apparently refuting this onhand, which was surprising, since it ran contrary to what one of my professors at Berkeley had previously said (and I, at first glance, strongly suspected that a professor of Chinese history specializing in religion at the best public university in the country was better-positioned to put forth claims about buddhism than most Christian theologians.)

Further poking around recently has confirmed my view on this issue. Obviously, there are some differences between the concepts of grace between the two systems (necessitated by lack of the concept of sin or God in the Christian sense,) but it is factually wrong to claim as you did that salvation in Shin Buddhism requires some degree of works and is not offered through faith alone. Shin Buddhism requires absolute faith in the saving power of the Amida Buddha (coupled in many traditions with one recitation of the phrase "I trust in the Buddha of Immeasurable Light.".) With absolute faith (unless, in some traditions, you have committed one of the five gravest sins - patricide, matricide, arahanticide, buddhacide, or creating a schism in a monastery) salvation is assured -- without works.

The other issue I challenged was a fairly insane anecdote about Sagan. The cite you pulled for it was from a book by Chuck Colson. I haven't actually checked it because the UCB library doesn't have it (I could get it on ILL, but haven't bothered yet) but even if it does support your anecdote, I am still extremely skeptical of an anecdote about sagan exclusively sourced from, of all places, a Chuck Colson book.

If someone gave a presentation before your congregation and declared "Christianity is a world view incompatible with reality because Pat Robertson molests little kiddies," and used a citation from Hitchens, your initial reaction would be one of utter disbelief, no? I was in a similar position; as Nick said, if I wanted to actually insult you, it would have been considerably more direct.

Seriously, I'd appreciate a reply, or a retraction/correction - you are fundamentally and severely misrepresenting my statement in order to make yourself look better.

It's been several months. I'm sure you have had time to retract or correct this deliberately dishonest entry. Why have you not done so?

You haven't responded to this even though it's been quite some time. From where I'm standing, that looks pretty largely hypocritical. I know I'm not exactly your neighbor, but I would have thought the whole "no false witness" thing would apply to me, anyway.

You have my personal email address; you can always respond there if you want to speak in private, or just respond directly on this page.

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Sean McDowell is a teacher, author, speaker, husband and father. He is an avid fan of college basketball, ping-pong, and his favorite superhero is the Amazing Spiderman.