First, I would ask the parent, "How frequently?" Lots of people are simply curious, and want to know what all of the fuss is about, so they look at some porn. Most react to it like "Been there, done that", consider pornography overrated, are rarely choose to look at it again. If the young person admits to looking at porn more that 10 times in the past year, then you can assume that the porn has a place in the emotional and sexual life of the young man. A parent can then ask their son if he has noticed that he looks at porn when he is stressed out, or lonely, or perhaps bored. (He may claim that the porn has a purely recreational purpose, in which case the parent can reiterate their belief that porn viewing is not a healthy form of recreation, and the reasoning behind that opinion.) If he can connect his porn use to a certain emotional experience, then the parent has hit gold, and can then follow up with a conversation about how the son wants to handle his difficult emotions. In this case, the parent is helping the adult child to have an experience of what I call "heart intimacy." This is the prescribed antidote to "false intimacy", one form of which is pornography.

If the young man is looking at very bad stuff, I would urge him to consider stopping "cold turkey." He might find support in a men's accountability group at church, or check out a web site that helps people stay away from porn. There used to be one called www.xxxchurch.com . I hope this helps.